When you plan to have a surprise wedding, items quickly get sorted into one of two categories: 1) things you can control, and therefore are allowed to care about, and 2) things you cannot control and have to let go.
Food. Music. The dress. Those all fall in the former category. Who shows up. When they show up. What ridiculous thing they’re wearing when they show up. Those things cannot be controlled. (For photographic evidence of the western themed outfits worn by our beloveds, check my blog about how to plan a surprise wedding.)
Only one thing of substance really matters in the ‘let go’ category, and that’s who shows up. No matter what your style of wedding, some people you invite will not be able to attend, and it’s heartbreaking. In our case, it was extra sad because people didn’t know what they were missing. Which is why I was ELATED to find out my GrandBob filmed the ENTIRE ceremony! He sent me the video link right after the ceremony and I only remembered last week. Time flies when you’re on a three week honeymoon in Italy 🙂
Today is our 6-month married anniversary. With the newlywed vibe strong in the Tursciari household, I’m excited to share the video for the first time with all of you who weren’t there (or who want to see it again!). Big thanks to my grandfather (and grandmother!) for filming and sharing with all of us. Click the image below to watch!
p.s. With a surprise wedding, you also get the secret third category of “stress-inducing wedding particulars you can cross right off your list”. I’m a huge sucker for history and tradition, and Jordan and I worried we’d get in way over our heads financially and stress-wise if we went for a standard wedding. As soon as we decided on the surprise ceremony, I giddily crossed many traditional To Do’s off my list. Those items include, but are not limited to: designing invitations, picking colors, finding a location, choosing bridesmaid dresses, hiring caterers, registering for gifts, bridal shower, bachelor/ette party, professional flowers, tiered wedding cake, seating charts, and all of the expectations that come from attendees at a wedding. If you, like me, are not stoked to plan a wedding, I highly recommend going the surprise route.
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